Fab Frugal Mama: Why I Won't Win Mother of the Year

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Why I Won't Win Mother of the Year

Reason #28: my kids ate breakfast at 12:30pm today.

I've never claimed to be perfect - far from it, in fact. But some days are just bigger screw-ups than others.

Like today, for example. I had the best intentions... get up, eat breakfast, do a bit of work for a client, then take the kids to the museum. Sounds easy enough, right?

The morning started off just fine. The kids (bless their hearts) slept in, so I got a bit of work done before they awoke. Then they got dressed and my oldest played in her room while my youngest watched morning cartoons.

The next thing I knew, my littlest one was calling up to me, asking for a glass of juice. I casually glanced at the time on the computer… 12:26pm.

Wait… what?

I am a bad mother was the first thing that popped into my head.

How could I have let this happen? I mean, geez, I had just praised my daughter on her latest artistic masterpiece, and that was at 10:45am!

Being a WAHM means that, sadly, this occasionally happens. I'm not proud of it, but I feel like I need to put it out there.

Nobody’s perfect and, as a Mom, I feel pressure to appear like I've got it together.

All the freakin’ time.

But I don’t... not even close.

So, I’ve made a conscious effort to use my screw-ups as learning tools. Each one is an opportunity to teach my kids that I’m human. Imperfect.
And most of all, sorry.

When I apologize to them for my errors, they are seeing humility in action. By owning up to my shortcomings, they are learning that it’s OK to make mistakes… normal, in fact. 

I’m just grateful to have fab Mamas in my life who will listen when I mess up and who aren’t afraid to bare their imperfections, too. {Thanks – you know who you are. #KeepingItReal}


4 comments:

  1. Honestly Lisa, don't beat yourself up over it. I'm sure if they were "starved" they would have let you know. But I do know what you mean, it's not always "easy" being a parent, especially when you want a balance between parenting and "living". You're a great mom and your kids are lucky to have you. Hang in there, tomorrow's a new day :)

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    1. Thanks for being one of the mamas I turn to for reassurance, Maya. :) We are all bound to have these days occasionally... we just need to stop beating ourselves up about them, I guess.

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  2. They definitely would have let you know if they were hungry! Perhaps they were just enjoying a relaxed morning :) Being a WAHM is a challenging job. This morning, I had to get some work done for a couple of clients before I took my kids to a play park. I lost my cool (LONG story) with my son because I just needed 5 (in realize 60 but beggars can't be choosers) minutes of uninterrupted time and I just couldn't seem to get it to finish up what needed to be done. My DAUGHTER was the one that brought me "down" and she made me a beautiful list of everything that I had to do before leaving the house in order to make it easier for me - we were both lucky Mamas today :)

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    1. Thanks...I know you get this because our situations are very similar. From one mama to another - I appreciate your unfailing support. :)

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